We were together for 3 years, was intense and with many ups and downs, long story. Have you been asking him to get back together and having emotional conversations since the two months of no talking?
IF so you need to stop this. Keep your NC to 21 days and then start following Chris texting advice in the articles. It is not about getting him back at first, it is about getting him investing time into talking to you and interesting conversations that make him look forward to talking to you again. I tried No Contact with my ex and three days later he texted me and then gave me a surprise visit the same night after I got home from work.
I was just wondering if I should put some effort however little it may be to text him at some point. Hi Rebecca, if you want to get back with your ex then you need to start a full no contact and then the texting phase.
If you only want friendship then you can reach out to him as you normally would. I did the NC rule and he eventually texted me after the NC. I eventually texted him and we were good. He told me that he still loved me and cared for me and I for him.
We both saw each other in the future and we were willing to work things out together. He was in quarantine throughout the time and before that, he would go to night clubs or bars and went drinking and he broke up with me because he felt he kept hurting me and used the advantage of my kindness.
But anyways, when he was in quarantine, he was different. What should I do? I want to text him how I feel for the very last time and go into NC. Please respond please. Thank you. Hey K I do not suggest that you send an emotional text as it is not going to help you, especially if you then go into NC because he knows he can still have you.
You need to do No Contact to work on yourself and get over him, in this time he is going to think that you are moving on and getting over him in the sense that he cant get you back.
Your NC needs to be 45 days as he has met this new person and you need to give them time to pass the honeymoon phase. Then you need to read about the being there method and implement this with your ex. My bf wanted to break up, but I really thought that we were having such a great time and why would we throw all away for 1 thing? I have to say I was the one who did wrong. So I told him we should take a break instead, he agreed to be on a break up, no break, for a little while and we set a day to meet up again and decide whether or not he wants to continue with this.
I texted him the day after that because I was feeling really bad and helpless, I really want things to work out and he did reply by the way, we had a short conversation. I have a unique situation. My ex and i broke up in October after it being an on and off type relationship. When we first split, I cut communication completely and then a few weeks later he asked if we could be friends.
I agreed to this even though i knew it would be hard. We would fight constantly, even more then when we were together. He told me to stay away from every one. But then this past weekend, he asked a mutual friend if he could come to a party I was at. So he basically never showed up and now i feel like i should of asked him to come so we can talk.
The not communicating and such. Please help? Hi Robin, do you want to get back with your ex or just have him as a friend again? If you want him back then you need to follow the program with a NC and follow the information. If you want him back as a friend then you can reach out and try to have a calm conversation. Hi, my ex boyfriend and I were together for just a little over one month.
But we spent a lot of time together and it was really special to me. The breakup was a little rocky, I cried pretty bad. I wanted to stay with him because I really liked him. The next day I felt a sense of hot and cold behavior and when I kept texting him he told me he had just woke up. It was 4pm and I had seen he was active on social media earlier.
He still has me on social media, Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat but he blocked my number. I had like 4 different number changed in a short period of time for personal reasons so I think that may be it because I would text him my new one.
I recently completed no contact after about a month of practically bombarding him with text messages. I texted him letting him know in a subtle way I was in a better place and I also apologized for my behavior. He texted back saying thanks it meant a lot but nothing else. My question is why does he send all these signals. Should I go back to no contact this time 21 days instead of 30 or should I send another text and see where it goes? Hi Marie, as you apologised and brought up the past yes you are going to have to complete another No Contact I would suggest that his time around you do a 21 day and focus on your Holy Trinity only.
Before i implemented it he was being super hot and cold with me and i only broke it once to get some clothes back off him that i needed. He still has a cover photo of us on his facebook and my name in his Instagram bio. What steps should i take next and when? Hi Katie, I am so happy that your first reach out went well, so you need to reach out with a text again a few days later days and again make sure you are the one who is ending the conversation not him.
Keeping it unemotional and positive. Focusing on his interests for now. My ex and I have been split for around 3 months now. I contacted him for around a month afterwards and got very little, until eventually I got nothings from him and then I jumped into no contact. Failed the first time and messaged No response obviously but then completed it the second time with honestly no slip ups. Things went pretty flat quickly though and he went back to ignoring my messages. I left it for another couple of weeks and tried again, saying that I wanted to start fresh, he replied saying he was sorry, he had just been really busy and that he would like that too.
He said he wanted to talk to me, he just has a lot on and is hardly on his phone. He started off responding quickly but the more I waited to respond to him, the longer he took to respond. I really am playing it very cool. At least I think so lol! Any help or advise on my situation would be massively appreciated. Hi Shannen so by the sounds of things you are letting your conversations run dry, or out staying your welcome.
Do some reading about what Chris calls the peak end of conversations. My ex text me yesterday so say he hopes I am okay and he dropped my belongings off at my friends house for me.
He said he hopes I have at nice weekend. I miss him and want him back but dont want to ruin any chance I may have. Our relationships was only 3. You need to complete the NC to work on yourself and give him enough time away from you to get over the break up and start to miss you. So he contact me after 30 days of no contact. Admitted he was seeing someone but it wasnt serious.
That he compared her to me a lot and she wasnt me. So we have talked on and off and he called me and we talked for 4 hours. Basically we talked about getting back together. He said he has a lot to think about. He reached out and told me to have a good day yesterday. Saturday is when he called me and we met up after no contact.
We talked all day yesterday and joked and laughed. I didnt bring up the other girl or our relationship. We talked about how it would work getting back together and he said he was afraid it wouldnt be the same or that we would fight all the time again. A lot of what he said was that hes scared and unsure about everything.
Im truly scared hes already considering not coming back to me and going to chose the other girl. Chris I made an error and called my ex after no contact and invited him out and he said no, I left him for a period of like 1week can I text him now?
I broke up with my boyfriend only three weeks ago. We were together for more than one year. And I need to talk to him. I feel like I will be better if I reach out to him.
I do not want him back, but I need his companionship. I know i should not text , but I do not know how to get through without talking to him. Not everyday in the early period, though it depends on a lot factors. You have my Program eBook right? Hi, i am in texting phase right now and in texting my ex response are positive and trying to make conversation longer. Is it okay to keep going or should i do nc again? So I would just slow it down a bit, see if you can get him to chase.
But if you are making some general progress, then re-doing NC would not be a good idea. Making Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous. This can sometimes happens, says Comaroto, when you want someone to be your distraction from reality. So, check in with yourself. Are you daydreaming because you're smitten or because you're trying to to bury other feelings with thoughts of this person?
If it's the latter, Comaroto says to tackle whatever it is you're dealing with head on which, yes, will be uncomfortable. But that's how growth happens. Then definitely send the text. The best way in, says Ann Rosen Spector, PhD, a psychologist in Philadelphia, is to bring up something you talked about during your date.
Or, if nothing really stood out are you sure you want to go on a second date? All the answers to your burning q's, here:.
If on the off-chance they're not interested, it's okay to let it sting for a bit Or, they have seen them and haven't had a chance to answer yet, or they have no intention of answering you at all. Either way, this is the perfect opportunity to take a hint, says Spector, and back off a little. If you have a really strong urge to text someone a hilarious meme you just scrolled past, text it to your mom.
So take some time and think about your response. Pro tip: They texted you, so you already know they're interested. You don't need to wait 10 minutes, or 20, or 22 before responding to seem less eager. Actual advice from an expert: Feel it out for yourself, says Spector. If their text is an explanation detailing why they've been MIA and you feel like hearing them out, you do you and write back. What have you been up to? From there, decide if continuing the conversation is worth your time.
Yours is precious, and there's no reason to waste it on a crappy texter or worse, crappy person. Weekend texts can lead to dates or party invites. Still, while weekend texts can lead to much-wanted IRL time, they might not always be well-received, says Palmer.
Reaching out to them to wish them luck on a big presentation they mentioned is a nice thing to do, and they'll probably appreciate it. Being that you and this person are no longer together, texting is probably best reserved for moments when you need something specific and have a clear goal for reaching out to them, Palmer says. I so needed to see this for a major wake up call. Me and my guy were texting nonstop for about 2 weeks. This was before we met online dating then I would say after the second date the text slowly started tapering off.
I became very worried and to make a long story short I had to do some damage control lol. Anyways, I relaxed and he called me. But it does get exhausting so I have been trying to give him more space.
One time my friend sent a embarrassing text from my phone. My boyfriend was doing a presentation and it popped up on the screen. All of his bosses and colleagues saw it. He texted me back that he was furious, and very embarrassed. It has been over a week. Does this mean we are broken up because of a stupid prank? First of all that was absolutely HIS problem.
He should have put his phone on Do Not Disturb or otherwise. My online friend is not coming online anymore and i dont know why. I am desperate. At first i thought he could be ill and i was worried but then one day i saw him online somewhere else, hes just not coming online on Skype anymore where we always used to chat. I just dont understand that. Why is he doing this to me? We have known each other for four years.
I wish he would just at least say goodbye to me, if he is not interested in our friendship anymore. It really hurts. What should i do now? How to move on? Then one day I send him a good morning text and wish him a good day at work, he responds, and I still expect him to call.
So I'm just gonna be aloof about it, like I had been all along, and prepare to move on if he has lost interest. I've yet to find an advice piece online that doesn't automatically assume the girl is annoying the absolute crap out of the guy and doesn't understand what having a life means and it's not the other way around.
I thought taking the quiz would help, but I couldn't even finish it because none of the answers applied to my situation. And the sad thing is I already know how to solve my own problem. I've noticed it since middle school when I dressed cute and the same guy would compliment my outfit and I would start to think about him when I dressed up to go to school and he would be sick on ALL those days.
So I am not texting him back at all today, and maybe if it lasts longer than today, I'll send a heart or something tomorrow just to express that he is still on my mind and I care. Then, after a few days he may say something about it, and that's when I'll communicate that I really appreciated when he would call more, and see if he can't at least call at bedtime.
If he complies, the conversations will become shorter and shorter until it's a simple "Just calling to say goodnight". It has only been 2 days he might have something else he needs to attend to. Be patient and it will all work out. Simple reality: if someone really likes you they will find a way to be with you.
But it is devastating when they stop talking to you, not responding to your phone calls, texts or emails. If they have time to go on Facebook and post comments and photos, they most certainly have time to text us. Maybe a week is too soon to be freaking out over his sudden silence.
Ashlyn, you are right. Its so easy to send a quick message. This actually really sets my mind at ease Ive been telling myself that but until i read it here i was still worried When we were texting back and forth constantly he would tell me if he was busy so id know but know its really disconcerting Thanks.
Thanks for this article! I feel like us girls put way to much emphases on texting i am guilty of this too! Before our date we were texting pretty frequently each day but since our date the texting has dwindled. Should I be worried or am I just over reacting. Thank you so much for this article!
It really helped me out. This guy who I like, and who is a very good friend of mine, stopped texting me throughout the whole summer. I think you are right about just being unreactive Thanks a bunch! Particularly when I call em cheap.
It was probably a mistake. I guess I could really use this advice. Would you leave a business associate hanging like that if they were used to texting back and forth about business and then it became bothersome? So, why not grow a pair and have some basic courtesy. Its not that hard! Put your phone down and find something else to do. Once I have finished I will reply and if its been a long time hours ill give her the reason as to why I was busy, Too many girls get so worked up over this, just chill… relax!
Seriously its simple as that! Spice it up! Send him a quick flirty message, tell him a joke! Guys get bored if you make it too long or too conversational!
We are really good friends, we get along so well, and have so much in common. We flirt a little bit here and there and have great chemistry but nothing had every made me think he liked me in that way until the other day when i had a little gathering at my house and he came we had a few drinks and at the end of the night he left with his friends but forgot his jacket and keys and had to come back.
This brought back all the feelings i had for him but left me really confused I felt he was giving me mixed messages. This happened 3 days ago and i havent heard from him since and i dont know what to do.
I want to talk to him about it and find out if he truly likes me but i dont know how to approach the situation because we were both under the influence of alcohol and he has a girlfriend.
Ok Eric- i love your articles thank u!! Its not like im confessing my love to him— its honestly a non- committal, gratuitous comment by me… To make HIM smile! I do not put out a needy vibe with him either i keep this confusion about his behavior to myself!! Have I just found myself trying to please a jerk? Or is this common for many men to do this? A new mode is a great way to open our own hearts willing to look closely at what our desire, and heal ourselves.
Instead of constantly seeking ways to please my ex boy friend, I find pleasure within myself. When you know how much you care and love your man, you best believe he knows as well. How can he just do this to me, why is he so disrespectful and cruel to me now, what did I do wrong…. I had to pull myself together because I was asking the wrong questions!!
The 4th time he did his last minute break up, about 5 days ago,he said so many negative things to me, he talked about all of my weaknesses, my short comings my heart was brutal ripped out, and for what!
Missing his love started way before he left me with no warning, in fact less than 24hrs prior he told me how much he loved me and I was the only woman for him. Emotional and verbal abuse is what I noticed just from being able to take care of me, and yes I still love him and I hope this time upart will bring him back to me. I cannot talk about groceries right now. But I know many men who text their male friends constantly. My ex kept up a dialogue with his bros nonstop, two or three times in a couple of hours, and yet took half a day to respond to me.
Initiates texts with me then stops responding. Talks to a mutual male friend constantly. The thing to consider here is how being around his buddies feels compared to how it feels to being around you. Guys are really simple: if something or someone always feels good to us, we like interacting with them all the time. If something or someone sometimes feels good to us, then we like interacting with them sometimes.
If something or someone almost never feels good, then we avoid dealing with it or giving it attention. Guys just want to feel good. Talking with his buddy feels good.
Figure out the answer to that for yourself and relationships will never be hard or confusing for you…. This comment here in your eyes is expressing your views on how supposidely simple men are and how suppposidely complicated women are.
The real reason is that we do not have any true men left on this planet and that many men do not know how to deal with their emotions so instead they find different methods of quick mental satisfaction rather than confronting the situation they are dealing with.
Communication is very important and shoud be a base of any relationship. A women should know her worth but also express her feelings and not assume a guy is busy since he is not texting back. So if we need to know something why not, just a suggestion here, tell us. Married Expert. So me and my ex we text daily and he says that we are friends but acts like more than friends!!
The thing is lately he would text me and we talk then he disappears mid conversation!!! And he sees my last text and he checks his whatsapp frequently!!! I never push the conversation i most of the time let him initiate! Plz help :. I love that Eric Charles..
Im not sure but I reckon many of us who are not in stable relationships are insecure.. Is it weird if a guy asks me out to see a movie and then I have to figure the times, the movie, and the directions. I mean…he did pay but this seems strange to me. Sounds like a good indication of what the rest of your relationship with this person will be like; You doing all the work and him reaping the benefits. As soon as that happened, and I looked for something real again, guess what happened?
A woman did to me, what that guy is doing to you! Simple and plain. He saw that you were inexperienced and probably pretty, too.
So he targetted you, persisted, and coerced you into giving it up. I see it all the time. And the cycle will happen all over again. If you want to avoid this eventuality, you have to stop texting this guy. He will never be happy. You will never be happy if you keep chasing him.
From a man this hits home for me. Was seeing someone like this and had his type of relationship if you want to call it that. Anyways out of the blue stopped texting me, etc, texted him a few times with no response, was heartbroken and so confused. Your right, why am I chasing him? It is self defeating and so soul crushing, ty!!! So I met my bests friends boyfriends best friend, we all hung out and hit it off like my best friend thought we would.
He told her I was cute. We hung out again and exchanged numbers. We talked everyday since then. He told me he wants to take me fishing since its his favorite thing too and told me to text him in the morning because he wanted to wake up from a text from me. Oh my gosh this is inspiring. To know that at least some one understands this really helps me.. What can I do to make him like me again? I never said any mean word to him I begged him to tell my mistake I asked to be just a friend but he just stopped replying.
You need to relax. Let her figure it out on her own. What a wierdo…cursing and threatening. You are a pathetic male role model…. Bravo… great post JMR! Your daughter should be proud she has such a caring and honourable da.
So we have been dating for 2 months. We go to different schools and berally see eachother, i think we have maybe hung out 6 times tops. It sucks because the time between hanging out is always so long and we are both really busy; me with volleyball and him with football. So the only way that we really keep the relationship going and communicate at all is by texting. For the past week we have only sent about 40 messages to eachother… compared to the we used to send per day!!
I had this thought that he was cheating on me. The last thing people have said to me is maybe he lost his phone. Would be the same way around vice versa? Back off, stop texting him…. Spend energy on making yourself happy and healthy, and stop expecting so much attention from these poor guys!
I have been in contact with this guy for least half a year. Few mths ago he went overseas for his studies and got back recently. Everything was fine within that few mths, constantly contacting each other with texts. Thought things will work out just fine. He came back recently but there was no news for him, at all. That was when I began to realize, all the waiting is worthless after all :. When I date a guy who is hearing with no problems my only means is texting since i CANNOT hear on the phone, therefore makes texting my main source of communicating electronically.
So if a guy really cared, then texting me shouldnt be an issue, right? I met this guy on line. We have been going out for more than a month now. He was injured a while ago so we only saw each other three times. So except the first time, every date would last for more than five hours.
But he finally convinced me to meet him and we kind of really liked each other. He texted me everyday and we emailed each other a lot. His messages are all very romantic and well written. Even though, we never talked about love, but there was definitely chemistry between us. He would put a lot of effort to spend time with me. We spent almost ten hours together last Wednesday. We were so happy together and he was so gentle with me.
Well, we only held hands, cuddled and hugged when he left. He seemed so happy to see me again and he specifically made that day for me. On Friday, he was still sending me texts on my way to a vacation spot. He texted me on Sunday, and after that, he just disappeared. Since we met on the dating site, he has been texting me every day, always first thing in the morning. I signed in on the dating site, and found out that he was on line today and yesterday and he even updated his profile by adding something.
I have no idea when he did that. When we met on Wednesday, I cooked lunch for him and he took me to a park. I tried to talk him out of the long drive, but he said he would be all right. We spent quite a few hours there. Later we watched a movie at my place and he left after the movie.
He kissed my forehead before he left. I was quite sleepy then and he even joked about I should not forget to brush my teeth before going to bed. He knew I had back surgery before so he was constantly stoking my back so I would be more comfortable.
He even stroked my hair for a long time. Now, out of the blue, he just disappeared. I was away that weekend but he still initiated the texts. After a few weeks the texting eventually stopped and i found myself texting him. I asked him if we can hang and he said he was too busy. I asked him 2wice and he always came with an excuse. This is what it said… Hey!
Good Morning. Just wanted to let you know if i say something i follow through and i expect the same. He did not reply. I dont know.. We met online orignially. He lives only 70 miles from me and we instantly struck up interest in eachother.
He was texting me everyday and even would call me once or twice a day just to say hi. Very sweet and very genuine. He even would tell me that he wanted to show me differently from how other guys had treated me in the past. So, I reluctantly believed him.
We had been talking on the phone and texting non stop for two weeks. So of course I agreed since I was very eager to meet him and I genuinely liked him.
Just for further detail he works a lot, but he has always managed to make time to text and call me despite that. The thing is I work a lot too and I have school yet I never go without keeping up with my friends and family, since they are people that I value a lot in my life. No other response after that. It just bewildered me. After that point I was extremely hurt because I thought that I meant something to this person and he just dropped me so suddenly, like I meant absolutely nothing anymore.
So I moved on. Now he starts texting again like nothing happened but I am done. Good for you! You dumped his sorry butt. Move on with your life, you sound like a confident girl who has her act together.
Keep focusing on yourself and your health and happiness and the right guy will come along. My experience is…once they start acting up and being disrespectful, it is time to dump them. You are young…live it up! I played it cool but still could not help getting anxious at times. I need some major advice please!!!!! Okay long story somewhat short lol. Okay so throughout the breakup I made mistakes and texted him, told him why blah blah… but I stopped later.
I just LOL at it. So the past 2 months him and I have been talking just as friends. He would always repond to my texts which before he would ignore or cuss me out etc, and this is 3 year after the break up. I told him it great hearing from you and I hope our path cross… he replied saying God willing our paths do cross I really hope that.
So I just replied saying yeah. He than proceeds to say he is loving the way I live my life and he is envious and jealous. He agreed and said he would find time. I said sure. Hours went by nothing.
The next morning he text saying hey, I replied with hi 2 hours later. He wrote how are you feeling, 2o min later I said pretty good. I am really sad because I care so much for him, and am his friend and had faith he would be a MAN and just not play this game of hot and cold anymore… we are just friends. So will he ever text me? Because I secretly do want to hear from him again??? Why does he do this? Please help, my heart is broken again. I been hurting for almost 4 year becouse of this guy… this is a long long long story that is very condense.
He is kind of a jerk, obivosly a player since he left to find a sex buddy. He says I am a great friend and that he has love for me, but why alway do this? First of all, let me say that I hate texting period. Months later he text me out of the blew just to say hi, and kept it up for three days. Random texts saying Good morning or how are you. I responded out of curiosity and basically said we should meet. Big mistake!!!
After hooking up that one day, he did text me randomly through out the day. He actually did call, and expressed consistent interest. To my shame, I accepted the apology and continued speaking to him, thinking I was practicing the high ideal of forgiving and moving on.
Well, just a few days before Christmas he did it again, no word from him on Christmas day, and for several days after.
I am going throgh an something like this too : really hurts because I actually care about this guy a lot, and I don;t know how to move on. Sounds like my ex!! Last I heard from him he had moved to Ohio to have his mama take care of him as well as hiding from some girl who was 4 months pregnant!! So me and this guy have professed our love for each other numerous times over the past 4 or 5 years. This summer we saw eachother for the first time in 4 years and our feelings were still there and more so than ever before.
When I came back home to America, we messaged on Facebook for days, then all of a sudden he stopped responding Facebook is our only mode of communication. I kept messaging him and he kept telling me he was busy, but then I saw on Facebook he was on and talking to other people. Sometimes I wish us women were not built to be constantly ruled by our emotions — especially when it comes to men.
There are times when a guy has hurt me so bad, that it feels even worse then when someone close to me has died. I respect what the author of this article is saying here. But the point is that most women are not wired in such a way that we can just be unreactive and assume a guy really likes us if he is not doing enough to show it.
We cannot switch off the hormones and become like men. I have always assumed that if I guy really likes you then he will show it. If he really cares for you and wants to be with you then he will be. No games, no man cave, no messing around. From reading a lot of the comments here, I feel as though most of the guys in question are not ready to be in committed relationships — otherwise why would they be prepared to lose a good woman?
Please let us not let men of the hook. A relationship — whether in the early or later stages is about two people making the effort to make it work, not just one.
Thank you!!!!! I feel like many of the men who behave this way are immature or players, and not at all ready to date like adults. We are women, as much as we try it is difficult to just switch off the hormones and become like men. Playing these emotional mind games gets tiring, and sometimes I just want a guy to be a man for once and stop toying around with my emotions making me cry and feel bad about myself.
It is so time consuming and it seems like most guys now a days that is what they are focused on doing. I have a job to go to, classes to attend, other crazy people that I have to deal with as friends and co-workers- the last thing I need is some wacky love interest that keeps me guessing high and low does he like me or not?
What the hell? I totally agree with you. Life is too short to be playing games. I wish men would be straight forward. You either like a girl or you dont, dont lead her on. What a motivation! Thankyou, yeah, i wuz startting to freak out, but your right just think of it in a good, i guess. But I also know I am crazy organized and over analyze so this article really helped in thinking hey stop getting crazy over a little text.
So thanks great artilce. I need to calm down haha. The other guy messaged me and we started to and exchanged numbers he gave me his i messaged him as he asked for me to let him know i had recieved it. Well we was meant to meet up last week friday however said that he had to go work in the evening but still wanted to come and see me which i thought was sweet i gave him a time to meet however he never showed i waited for 30 mins in the rain i might i ADD and when i called there was no answer i think i called bout 5 times as i got worried and texted him which i know he read as i have delivery reports on my phone?
Hi guys! So i am having a huge guy problem. This guy is a delivery guy that comes in to our store tues-thurs.
It all started when i wrote my number on his cup and the next day he texted me. We were texting for awhile , then all of a sudden he just stopped talking and ignored me at work. ANyways, couple months later he started talking to me again at work. Then one day he told me he got a new phone and gave me his new number and asked me to text him.
I texted him like a few days later and he replied, but then he stopped replying after awhile. He has done that multiple times now. THen he would come in and ask me to hang out but he never texts me. And when i text him first, he replies but then he suddenly stops replying.
I am really annoyed and frustrated with him. I dont know if he is ignoring them or if he actually didnt receive them. Anyone help?? FB seems to ruin relationships too often.
If he asks to friend you, just tell him how you feel uncomfortable doing so. Thank you soooo much for this!! Great words of advice as well! This was awesome. Definitely helped me put things into perspective, and feel ALOT better.
Thank you! So i have been talking to this guy that i met and he is really sweet he does t like a lot of drama so we have a lot in common, but since he found out that i wasnt the age he thought i was he had kinda been avoiding me… And to add on my friend has been telling him stuff about me that is negitive… Should i be mad at her and should i stop talking to him???? I think I read this too late.
Been dating a guy for a couple months, nothing serious. I was playing it cool, Im not a very clingy person generally. We initiated equal amounts of communication, he asked me out on all our dates but one, the last one, where I asked him if he wanted to hang out.
The day after our last date he text me in the morning and that evening and then nothing. No reply. Anyway, he saw me out at the weekend which was only 2 days after my last text to him and he just stood and stared at me before leaving the club. Or did I act too soon and he thinks I called it off lol? I know this entry was a while ago, but I think you handled yourself well.
Was it a miscommunication or had he lost interest and was playing games when he saw you in the club? Hey Eric :. Gives by far the best advice and a great perspective to think from. Just playing it cool. I really, really like him.
This is a brilliant suggestion! Thank you so much for this advice! I have been taking it an my life is so much less painful now.
All you can do is control your reactions and choices. So I met this guy in school and we became friends and I started to like him as more than a friend. Then this summer, we started hanging out outside of school and the first time we hung out alone he kissed me.
We hung out once a week for the next month and texted pretty often. Then 2 weeks after the first date he came over to my house and introduced himself to my family.
Then the day he got home from his trip he texted me asking if I could hang out, which I thought was sweet because he wanted to see me the day he got back. Is this a bad sign? So, my friend set me up with this guy and we started texting for like a week and it was great.
So then we went to the movies and afterwards he wanted to get wendys and we walked some trails with our food and then sat watching the stars…Perfect night! Haha…anyway at the end of the night he asked for my number and kissed me. He said he had a great time and wanted to grab a drink next week…so he said he would text me the next week and I heard from him Tuesday…he asked if Thursday was good…so come Thursday I go and we have a great time…but oops…we slept together.
Bad right?! This happens to me too!
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